Fisting The Vagina

Vaginal fisting (or fist-fucking), means inserting one entire hand into the vagina. This – if done correctly – will usually result in a very violent orgasm, often combined with female ejaculation. The fisting is usually done by the partner but occasionally women do it themselves.

The nonsense

Regardless what others may tell you, fisting – when done correctly – is not dangerous. Many men are afraid their hands will be too big. This can be the case, but usually it is not. And: you don’t have to have a baby first before you can be fisted, although there are some differences between women who have had a baby and those who haven’t. many women who have had children (and those who haven’t) fear they will experience a pain like that of childbirth.

The pain (to a very large extent) during childbirth is caused by 2 events. The first being the passing of the child thru the opening of the uterus. This is meant to be closed. Contractions are the bodies way of forcing the child thru this opening. The second cause is the shoulders passing thru both the uterus and the vaginal opening. Note….. not many fists are the size of a newborn child’s shoulders.

The objective

The objective is to create a very satisfactory orgasm that has some “similarities” to giving birth. Vaginal contractions will be much stronger and the orgasm cannot be compared to any other. This is due to the vagina is “filled” entirely and stimulated everywhere – especially the G-spot, the uterus and the bottom of the vagina simultaneously.

Technical preparations

What you need is lots of lubricant – it usually helps to have either a dispenser or a small bowl available. I prefer a lubricant called Astroglide. You may want to warm the lubricant by placing it in a pan of warm water first. The cold lubricant at the wrong moment could have contracting Vs expanding reactions.

Also…..always us a waterbased lubricant. The main reason being that the vagina will naturally dissolve or expel water based. The other reasons are infections from products such as Vasoline and not to be over looked…. A non water based lubricant can destroy a condom.

You will also want to have latex gloves available if you are in the least bit in doubt of your partners sexual history. All it takes for HIV to be transmitted is a small cut and a small amount of blood.

Lastly, make sure your nails are clipped and that you have washed your hands thoroughly with an antiseptic soap.

Emotional preparations

Be aware that this may be an emotional barrier for your partner and talk about it before you even attempt to do it. No consent?

Forget it. It won’t work. Remember that the vagina is the most precious female organ designed for other purposes and women are usually very protective about it, for obvious reasons.

Next: it’s good to know (if fisting is new to you) that the effect is intensely emotional and that after care (always extremely important) is paramount in this case.

Once you and your partner have decided this is something you want to do there are 2 ways to initiate it. The first is to tell them when the time has arrived and you want to try. This will either have a very erotic effect on them or scare the shit outta them.

The other is to just proceed with the technique (consent has already been given, but the timing not known) and let them go with the flow and perhaps lessen their anxiety.

In either case don’t just go from undressing to fisting. Take your time and remember that foreplay is as important in this as in any other sexual activity.

Fisting takes time and patience. Remember that the vagina has some very obvious defense systems. If you go too quick, the muscles will cramp in defense and you won’t get anywhere. With your palm UP, insert one finger, moving it in and out in a fucking motion and WAIT until sufficient room exists for the next finger and so on. Once you have three fingers in, it usually helps to use your thumb, or mouth, to stimulate the clitoris as well. Use lots and lots of lubricant. Not only will it make penetration easier, feeling extremely wet will also increase your partners’ lust. Make sure you have lubricated the interior wall of the vaginal entrance and also the lips fully.

Once you are able to get four fingers in, you are close but now you need to take extra time. Stimulate the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. WAIT until the vagina starts to “absorb” your fingers (you can feel that). It is now you want to take a second and push the vaginal lips off your hand and to push the clitoris up and away from your hand. By moving the lips you are making sure you are not trying to fold them into the vagina and by moving the clitoris back you are making sure it is not inadvertently trapped between your hand and the pelvic bones.

Now begin to slowly twist your hand from palm up to the palm being vertical. The muscles in the front pelvic area are much stronger and need to be stretched and relaxed. Keep this motion up until you can make the twist with little or no resistance. Remember to reapply lubricant if necessary (without removing your fingers).

Next withdraw a slight bit and lay your thumb alongside your middle finger, form an arrow and very carefully push without applying force. Continue twisting your hand from palm up to vertical. Suddenly when the frontal muscles relax and enough lubricant (natural and/or Astroglide) you will feel a giving away. It is now you twist your hand so that your palm is down and your thumb is folded into your palm. You should at this point be at, or just beyond the knuckles of your hand.

The widest part is now in the entrance of the vagina. Now, in one fluid motion curl your fingers into your palm encasing your thumb and push. With very little effort you will discover the vagina gripping your wrist. You are fully in. It is not unusual for orgasm to occur now.

It is now you want to begin a very slight in and out motion. Many enjoy a slight twisting motion also. This is stimulating the uterus, vaginal walls, G spot and urethra. You will most likely feel a series of contractions, growing more intense in 3-5 waves. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO DO ANYTHING. Just let them happen. If your partner moves (most likely will) adjust your body and hand to theirs. Let them lead the way in position.

Once the orgasm and perhaps contractions have subsided begin a very slow and slight rocking motion in and out, and the same degree of twisting motion. This is a very calming and is when a strong emotional connection occurs.

Do not leave your fist inserted too long as natural lubrication tends to stop or slow down after orgasm. Remember….ya gotta get out. Slowly pull back until the base of your fist is firmly against the vaginal opening. Slowly uncurl your fingers and move your thumb to the straight up position. Now, rocking in and out in a gentle fucking motion pull further out each time. Once the knuckles of your hand have exited you can remove your fingers at will.

Whew…… cuddle up and relax. You and your partner have most likely just experienced the most incredible sexual act ever.